No more.
Do you have the courage to say it, and mean it?
I have been in awe this week of 3 people within my circle of influence who have chosen to say “no more” to situations in their lives that have caused them pain and heartache.
In doing so, each of them is subjecting themselves to the opinion of those within their circles who may look upon them harshly, or with disappointment. They have made these choices knowing that there are consequences in the future, some which they probably cannot see, and many of which may be very hard to live through.
And yet they have chosen.
These may not necessarily be the choices that I think are in their best interests, but that is not for me to decide. I do not know their circumstances as intimately as they do, and has been pointed out to me many times before, I don’t know everything.
But I do know that these choices have taken a great deal of courage, and I am inspired by the strength of decisions that I see. I am reminded that we are the only ones who know our own hearts, and the true reasons for why we make the decisions that we do.
The level to which we are self aware helps us to make those choices intelligently, and yet the more I work with clients through their awareness journey, the more I realize that many of us live in a bubble of emotion that prevents us from seeing and accepting the truth of why we feel a certain way.
In each of these 3 situations, I can see possible underlying emotional wants that may be creating a distortion in the person’s perception of the situation they feel they face, and in the choices they have made going forwards.
And I am reminded that in life, there are always choices, but sometimes all you have are bad ones, and you just have to choose, and try to make the best of where you land.
But every choice that changes your life takes a significant amount of courage. Whether it’s to walk away from a place where you are no longer valued, or from a relationship that no longer serves you, there are rarely easy choices in our journey through this existence.
But these choices can be made a little easier with the support of those around you who profess caring and concern.
Today, I ask you to find those who are making life changes, and support them in any way that you can. As has been stated, all of us are fighting a battle.
For some, they may have reached the bridge through their troubles that only they can take, but we who are with them can support them, and be present for them.
May we stand ready to assist, affirming our love and compassion by our acceptance of their right to choose their path, rather than the one we might choose for them.
— Dr. Alan Barnes
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